Love has not been completely rejected in Islam, rather it has been described as a pure and responsible emotion. Allah Almighty says in the Quran Sharif that He has placed mutual love and mercy in the hearts of humans. But it is very important to keep this love on the right path. If love goes against the ways prescribed by Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him), then the same love becomes the cause of trouble, sin and lack of peace of mind for a person.
Sunnah teaches us that the foundation of any relationship should be on purity, respect and marriage. In today’s era, boys and girls, in the name of love, get into such relationships in which there is neither modesty nor Allah’s approval. The result is that the heart breaks, trust is lost and the person becomes a victim of depression.
The Quran and Sunnah also tell us that if one falls in love with someone, the first step is to pray to Allah and not to make secret relationships. True love is that which saves a person from sin and brings him closer to Allah. When a person keeps his love within the limits of Shariat, Allah bestows blessings on him. Therefore, from the Islamic point of view, the solution to love is that we surrender our emotions to the orders of Allah. Whatever pleases Allah will be better for us, even if it is against our heart’s desire.
The proper way to establish a halal relationship
In Islam, the most beautiful and complete form of love is marriage (Nikah). Nikah is not just a social custom, but an act of worship. When a man and a woman enter into a relationship through Nikah, their living together, communicating with each other, and expressing their love all become acts of reward in the sight of God. The biggest problem with love today is that people make marriage difficult and relationships easy. After spending years in forbidden relationships, when the topic of marriage arises, society, caste, wealth, and status become obstacles. Islam disapproves of all these unnecessary barriers.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Make marriage easy so that mischief does not spread.” When you fall in love with someone who is righteous in their faith and character, the best solution is to involve the families and proceed with the relationship in a halal (permissible) way. Marriage teaches responsibility in love. It involves not only emotions but also patience, sacrifice, and loyalty. Those who avoid marriage are often the ones who suffer the most in love. If, for some reason, marriage is not immediately possible, then being patient and seeking help from Allah is the right path, rather than engaging in forbidden relationships. Remember, the relationship that begins in the name of Allah is the one that brings peace until the end.
Prayer and patience can solve the problems of love
In Islam, the greatest solution to every problem is prayer (dua). When faced with failure in love, separation, or betrayal, people often break down and choose the wrong path. But the weapon of a believer is prayer and patience.
When the heart aches for someone and circumstances are unfavorable, one should humbly pray to Allah, saying, “O Allah, if this relationship is good for me, then make it easy, and if there is any harm in it, then remove it from my heart.” This prayer brings immense peace to the soul. Patience does not mean remaining silent and suffering inwardly, but rather trusting in Allah and avoiding sin. Allah has reserved a great reward for those who are patient in love. It is often observed that a relationship that seems essential today proves to be a protection from Allah later on. Therefore, every brokenhearted person should have faith that Allah is planning something even better for them. Prayer and patience strengthen a person from within. A person who connects with Allah cannot be permanently broken by the absence of any human being.
The Islamic way to avoid forbidden relationships
Forbidden relationships may seem sweet at first, but their end is always bitter. Islam prohibits forbidden relationships because they harm a person’s honor, heart, and faith.
The first step to avoiding forbidden relationships is to guard your gaze. When the eyes are controlled, the heart remains under control as well. After that, it is crucial to avoid unnecessary conversations, chatting, and meeting alone. In today’s world, social media has become the biggest source of forbidden relationships. Islam teaches us to stay away from anything that leads to sin, no matter how common it may be. If your heart is drawn to someone, instead of pursuing a secret relationship, turn to Allah. Fasting, regular prayer, and reciting the Quran greatly help in protecting oneself from forbidden acts. Remember, forbidden love never brings peace. True peace is only found in relationships that are pleasing to Allah.
Trust in Allah and the power of Istikhara
In the pursuit of love according to Islamic principles, complete reliance on Allah (Tawakkul) is crucial. People often believe they know what’s best for themselves, but the truth is that Allah is the All-Knowing. When faced with confusion in matters of love, marriage, or making decisions about relationships, performing Istikhara (seeking guidance from Allah) is the recommended practice. Istikhara means asking Allah to guide you to what is best. After performing Istikhara, the direction towards which one’s heart feels at peace and the path becomes easier is considered a sign from Allah. Sometimes the answer may be contrary to our desires, but that is ultimately what is best for us.
A person who trusts in Allah is never disappointed. If a relationship doesn’t work out, one should understand that Allah has protected them from a greater hardship. Ultimately, the message is that true love is that which leads one closer to Allah, not away from Him.
